Older but no more wiser...

Tomorrow is my birthday. I won't reveal my age but let's just say 40 is coming up quick!
I treated myself and got my hair done. I needed to dye the grey out and the blue chunk which had faded miserably. I got it cut shorter in the back and longer in the front which I thought would be a nice change. I like it but I don't think my husband does. I'm not too worried about it though.
So I have been struggling emotionally lately. The same old, same old with regards to my business and my job. I would love to work for myself fulltime but not sure my business can make enough money. Sales were slow in August :(
I have also been overweight for years now and am sick of trying weight watchers etc. I am thinking about lap band surgery but it is so expensive and I am not sure I even qualify. I am trying to get some answers. My husband is not on board with it. he doesn't want me to spend my money on it and I kinda think he just thinks I am lazy which is so not the case. In any event, I am looking into it and will make the right decision for me.